Be Brave : God’s Ardent Message to Every Gay Person, and The People In Their Life

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It wasn’t your choice, it may not have been your desire, but the stage is set. You are gay, you have a gay child, your brother, sister, or friend is gay.

For some of you, the curtain awaits, but coming out… the apprehensions are too overwhelming. You’ve rehearsed your lines a thousand times, looked into the crystal ball of every person’s response, plotted the strands of dominoes that are sure to fall the moment you sing your first note…  “I’m gay.” “My son is gay.” “Yah, my sister… she’s gay.”

For others, you’ve taken the stage. You began your song, the crowd looked down at the Playbill. They were quick to the disconnect. This wasn’t in the script, it’s not how the story was supposed to go. The plot twist sounded… gasps, chatter… then silence. Some picking up their things, searching for exit signs.

One thing is clear, the audience of your life is uncomfortable with this scene, if not in complete rebellion. Relatives can’t seem to understand. Your spouse, hugging an old baby picture off the mantle, still convinced “denial” is just a river in Egypt. Once intimate friendships have now evaporated. The people who should be drawing you close are pushing you away. With spotlights burning your gaze, you struggle to see who’s in and who’s out.

This if your life. This is your scene. You are gay, you have a gay child, your brother, sister, or friend is gay.

A rush of anxiety wells up from your toes to your head. You scan the auditorium. It’s funhouse mirrors without the fun. Everything that once was so familiar looks so unfamiliar. You ad-lib a closing verse knelt down with fists shaking…. “This can’t be real, this can’t be happening. Oh my God, my hands and feet are bleeding. Somebody, pull the damn curtain, and get me the hell out of here.”

In tears, you scamper off stage. If only it ended there.

You search for quietness, but the quietness won’t be quiet. You have questions for God. Why me? Why us? Isn’t there some other way?

It’s gut wrenching, it’s hard, aloneness never felt so lonely.

This if your life. This is your scene. You are gay, you have a gay child, your brother, sister, or friend is gay.

In the very midst. Right here, right now, God speaks a message, to you. He’s sitting on your lap, grasping your shoulders, speaking straight into your eyes…

Be brave.

It’s time to be brave.

You’re gay. You are fearfully and wonderfully made… gay. There was no mistake. You’re not a question, you’re a statement. From the voice of the Father, of the beauty of Jesus.

For such a time as this, you are born. You are the revival God is bringing to this world. Stop wishing for everybody else’s life, this is your life. Holy, pure, without blemish, overwhelmed with purpose. Stand up, take your place.

If God created you to be you, and you aren’t willing to be you, then why in the frigging universe, did God create you in the first place?

Sing your song, damn it, sing your song!

The moment is now. Don’t you dare give up, and don’t you dare shrink back.

It’s time to be brave.

God is not ashamed of your child, why are you? Look at me eyeball to eyeball. You are their family, for crying out loud. You are God’s best idea as to how to manifest His Grace and love to this divine-imaged human being.

What? You think those people’s backseat opinions really matter? You’re actually giving them a voice? I’m not trying to minimize the challenge. But, you don’t owe them anything. Not an explanation, a plan, a Bible verse, and surely not a space in your head. This is your scene, not theirs, this is your family, not theirs. This is your child, not theirs.

For Christ’s sake, it’s time to be brave!

Fine, you’re having an honest debate in your mind regarding the Scriptures. But, it’s our children that deserve our strongest stance and defense, not the Bible. Jesus would have it no other way. It’s unconditional love, or it’s not love at all.

Your homosexual child isn’t a cross to bear, don’t ever think or speak that poison again. They are no less than the Christ you carry into this world.  Stop fiddling, stop fumbling, start embracing, with the same pride and delight your Father has in you.

It’s time to be brave.

Friends don’t let gay friends be gay, alone. They don’t let families with gay children, be families, alone. This is friendship, to lay down one’s life. You could be the only ray of heaven in that person’s hell. If you walk away, what will be left?

It’s time to be brave.

If you are going to be a church, and claim that “ALL are welcome,” with all your branding, slick staging, and spiritual posturing. You better make for damn sure that ALL aren’t just welcomed.. but wanted, loved, empowered, protected and dare I say… affirmed, and celebrated.  You represent Jesus. Who for the joy set before Him… endured. For the God-smiling affirmation and heaven-bursting celebration of ALL set before Him… He endured. Not just endured, but died.

If you aren’t enduring for the ALL, and the joy Jesus takes in ALL, you are not enduring for Heaven’s sake, you are enabling… for Hell’s.

You are gay, you have a gay child, your brother, sister, or friend is gay.

It’s time to be brave.

Be brave.

For Christ’s sake. Be brave.

8 Comments

  1. Caryn

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You have reaffirmed so many things that I have been working through in my own faith journey. There is no better, more pertinent message than the one you express in this post. I am gay. I am Christian. I have struggled for so long, wishing to have someone else’s life, living in so much fear and resentment over simply having to be me.

    Thank you for encouraging me to continue with faith that I am living as the person God always intended, and lovingly, created me to be.

    • ckratzer

      Caryn, thanks so much for you comment and encouragement! I am so honored to know you! Please connect with me on Facebook if you can. Let’s keep in touch! https://www.facebook.com/chris.kratzer

  2. Daniel

    Loved thos post chris great work as always 🙂 very nice megg to hear will be sure to share it with others

    • ckratzer

      Thanks Daniel, hope you are well my friend!!

  3. Sue

    Thank you for this! You have made a difference in so many lives, starting with mine! <3

    • ckratzer

      Humbled, honored, and so thankful to be a small part!

  4. Tim

    I’m going to be brave why not! I’m going to post just what is written in the bible. 1 Cor.6:9,10 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate (homosexuals) nor abuser of themselves with man kind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.
    For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections; for even their women did change the natural use into that which against nature; and likewise also the men, leaving the natural us of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men wih men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their erro which was meet. and even as the did not like to retain God in knowledge, Gad gave them over to a reprobate mind to do those things wich are not convenient being filled with all unregihteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity whipserers backbiter, hater of God, despiteful proud boasters, inventors of evil things..evidently homosexuality is condemned in the bible and those who do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

  5. sue

    Thanks for the message – it’s a story that surely needs to be spread across the nation – even FB – but I’m not out to many FB friends yet – I’ve recently only told my six kids. My son told me I was very brave to share with him and his sisters. I feel like it’s my turn to share – but waiting on God’s timing. Thanks for everything you do.

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